Success, the dictionary definition:
The favourable or prosperous termination of endeavours; the accomplishment of one’s goals Dictionary.com
Success is massive thing. It means a lot to everyone. In fact in this day and age the idea of being ‘successful’ is an exciting one. It’s something that drives us towards goals ands envision a certain type of lifestyle. However, what does success mean?
Above is the dictionary definition. I’d like to split this in two.
‘The favourable or prosperous termination of endeavours’
Favourable and prosperous are both subjective terms. And this is what this blog post is about. Success in itself is a subjective term. What is successful to one person may not seem it to another. This is why its important that we all take great pride in all our endeavours. The fact that your even trying to achieve something is an amazing thing. The process is something that should bring you joy and happiness. And if it doesn’t? Then why are you doing it? To seem successful to others? Because someone has told you this what you need to do to become ‘successful’?
We tell ourselves ‘reasons’ of why we must strive to be successful all the time. If I lose another half a stone I’ll be successful, if I have 3 different careers then I’ll be successful, I have to go on that 5 star holiday round the world so that others see me as successful so I’ll slog my guts out in a job I hate to pay for it. There’s just no point. You aren’t doing it for yourself your doing it for the other people and how they see you, It doesn’t matter what others think its what you achieve for yourself that matters. All your endeavours matter, whether it be mini goals or maxi goals they matter.
So no matter how ‘small’ you think these goals are its the fact you are achieving them, or even trying to that matters. No matter how long it takes you, the fact you are stricing to better yourself in any way is amazing. And the only person who you are in competition with is yourself. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Your story is yours and theirs is completely different to yours. It may seem like they have it all; that they are doing better than you. But you don’t know what they’ve gone through to get to that point, just as you have gone through tough times to get to the point you have.
It’s not the end point that is important, its what you learn all along the way. Cheesy I know but it’s true. Getting my boy into full time school has been a hard slog. But I’ve been put in touch with some amazing services, met brave, determined parents, learned things about my son, and become a more patient, empathetic person along the way. Those are the things I’ll be counting as my achievements.
So next time you’re beating yourself up, don’t! Remind yourself of how far you’ve come and what you’ve already accomplished!